No, I know it was a mistake but she is a good person and mother. I blame myself for the break up, I did my best but I felt she cheated on me. Didn't feel she told me the truth about things, so I got distant with her. I don't think I would ever marry again I have a huge issue with trust. Things I saw in the Marines and since I've been out It's hard for me to trust someone.
I would take mine back in a heartbeat if he could show me that he could love me unconditionally. There has been alot of hurt but forgiveness goes a long ways.
After What my Future Exwife has done HELL NO! After being gone for Less then 1 Month she allready had someone Living with her in our bed. So much Time with her wasted over 9 Years. Atleast im only 33.
I cant imagine going back to a failed relationship! That said...
My man would probably go back to his ex in a heartbeat if she would have him. It is disturbing! I didnt realize he was still 'in love' with her when we got together 3 years ago. She was with someone else, but he was killed a year ago and everything changed. Up until then I thought he loved me with his whole heart...now I dont have a clue what to think.
Anyway....She hates him...LOL! Why would he want to go back to someone who thinks he is stupid, worthless, and wont become anything she wants?
The day I left, he knew where I went.
He called me and said you made your
decision, I said yes. He said you know
you can't come back. I said I don't ever want too. That was that and he is
remarried and happy. I just feel sorry
for the second wife. She must be a saint. The grass was greener over the
fence. Or is that the septic tank!!!
I already did, with much more realistic expectations. We had laughed, cried, rode, played, made love, travelled...blah, blah, blah.
For the slim possibility we tried. She is a Disabled Vet and I'm still in for a few more years.
But fate was not there for us. We are close friends but live 1600 miles apart. I wish the best for her and she hope I can find somebody special. It's not very often you get such a friendship on this side of divorce.
NO WAY. Why in the heck after leaving the first time would it would work a second. In the state of Pa. a couple gets married, have children, have a house, dog, cat, and then they get divorced, the woman gets alimony, child support, half the house, half the pention, meanwhile she gets a boyfriend, he helps her and the poor husband doesn't have gas money to go for a ride, so why in the H would any guy wana do it again.
Roxie...I've only read a few of the responses on here but I've been where you are at and it's no fun...but it does pass, I promise you. and..you will be a stronger, wiser person because of it...
Now as to the original question..would I go back to my ex?
I'd sooner french kiss a goat's ass...how's that for an open honest opinion? :o)
I have to agree w/you: if it didn't work the first time, it likely won't the second. I always had a cardinal rule of no going back until my ex...I gave him a second chance after 2 years; I still hadn't met anyone I had that chemistry with...guess what? He broke my heart again...He won't get a third shot.
I still love my ex. He is a hard act to follow. We were true friends. Had more fun and laughs than most experience in a life time, and trusted each other heart and soul. Our families
got along, and our hobbies were simular, even though occaisionally enjoyed at different times. Our sex life was adventurous....we have been in the "mile high" club at least five times...and those were some of the least interesting, adventurous, fun times we had.... Don't get me wrong,
they WERE all fun! We had lots of friends, and I have to admit I have never been "light hearted" and consistantly happy since my divorce, like I was with Richard! Why did we divorce? I was lonely. My Ex did not like touch...
never did. He would sleep above the top sheet so there was an anti-snuggle barrier...or if I was cuddling in my sleep too much, he'd climb into a sleeping bag. I was lonely, didn't want to ever cheat, and so I hope a pending divorce would fix things...but he said OK to it, but only after he tried. Holding hands still "hurt", putting his arm around me was "uncomfortable", my
arm draped across his chest as we were laying prone weighed as much as "six bowling balls", and my head weighed "a ton". I was lonely.
I do miss the light heart...it nevers stays around...but I keep looking for a good match. someone who can be both my friend, lover, and IN LOVE with me. I would take Richard back if he was the same man. I have never stopped loving him. I pity him and his loss of himself, and the hobbies he enjoyed most, because he was fooled into marrying a repressive
w(b)itch who won't even let him spend time with his family. If he ever became single again, I'd be first in line....and his sister, brother-in-law and Mother all know to tell me. I miss them, and they miss me. YES! I would go back to my Ex!!! I even remember enjoying Saturday mornings, watching Shining Time Station...back when George Carlin was the Station Master...just laying together in bed...and we didn't even have kids... It was cozy and pleasant!
I think we can all agree that our ex's are our ex's for a reason. Unlike many people I know, I have never had a really bad break up with a woman I've had a long term relationship with. Things come up, people's idea of what they want their life to be can change, and so you go your seperate ways. I have a few ex's I'd love to be with again, one in particular. She wanted to get married and have children. At the time I had been divorced for a few years and had a baby boy. I did not want to start another family, so, as much as I loved this woman, I had to let her go after five years because I didn't want to be the source of resentment down the road for not giving her kids. We still talk all the time. She's married, two dogs and no kids. Our conversations nowadays are strictly on a platonic level, as I would never want to do anything to break up her marriage, and I'm sure she wouldn't either. I like to live my life with no regrets, and other than her, I don't really have any. If I had to do it over again, knowing what I know now, I would have gladly married her and had children with her. There are only so many people that come into our lives that we love in that way, and who love us back equally. Now she's gone, I'm single, and life goes on. So while it would seem like a logical conclusion that most of us would not go back to our ex's, there are certainly exceptions.
after sixteen years of marriage and two teenagers later,mine tells me he wants a another lifestyle,and told our kids and myself we could no longer live there .
Rescue1 you made me laugh outloud while reading this. anyway, I wouldnt take my ex back now, its been ten yrs since I divorced him. I feel its always best to move on and cherish the old good memories ...make new positive ones...ok now, any single nice bikers our there between 45and 59 ? LOL
Mary
Met someone at Biketoberfest last year, had a great time there. Then he started calling me (he was in Kentucky, I am in Florida). January 1st he moved down here, lasted til Valentines Day, he went back to Kentucky. Really hurt at first, then he started calling me, he wanted to come back. So I decided to give him another chance, That was May, well 7/31 he headed back to Kentucky. Morale of this story, if it isn't good the first time it won't be any better the 2nd time.....:)
